It turns out that what we think is positive reinforcement isnt so positive. The article tells us that when we tell kids good job it tends to make them dependent on our approval. So the things they do aren't for their own good, but for our approval and for that "Good Job".
After i read the article it really hit me because i realized it happened to me. When i was younger my dad used to reward me for getting good grades. I started off getting decent grades, but then my dad starting offering me money for having a good GPA. i got a 3.8 and i was happy and my dad gave me money. Then later on I got a 4.0 and got more money and i was happy again. But when i got a 3.8 and my dad didnt give me money i felt disappointed in myself and i thought i did bad. Later on when i got to high school i became more independent. I started getting good grades for my own benefit. Their was no money or punishment involved. Now i dont need anyone telling me you did a good job because i already know i did.
This kind of thing gets me thinking about how many other things we are doing wrong but think its right. We might have good intentions but it takes an article like this to open up our eyes.