So how can I strengthen this characteristic? Well, lately I’ve been asking Allah to help me control it, to listen to other’s before I speak, thinking before I speak, and stop talking over others while their speaking. Last week when Ammerah one of the allies gave us all Ramadan cards, she wrote something that stuck out to me and made want to change a certain thing…She said “let’s work w/o the arrogance and laziness” that made me think deep yo and ask the other fellows, my cousin, sister, and parents if I had arrogance in me? My sister and father said I did and they explained how and I was so shocked because I always hear that about my sister not me but I started to think like I talk A LOT! Can talking a lot, arguing a lot, and talking over others seem like I think I know everything? Which can be arrogance?
Days went by as I would notice I would talk over people while they we’re talking, not listening while others would try to tell me my faults, just always ready to arguing on why their wrong! Thus,when I think back about what are things I’m learning and have learned so far in this program at each session. During all our group discussions the allies always make us listen to what the others have to say by giving them our full attention, listening well enough to be able to summarize what they said, and relating to it with a similar story. We as well trained ourselves to give a chance to others to talk to talk so the allies thought us to “step up and step down” if we talked a lot and as well not to talk over someone blocking out what others have to say. We learned about mega-cognition, thinking about your thinking… now I start to think deeply what made me think such and such and say it? Also learned the debating skills that are important that I’m still trying to train myself to use those properly, because I’m someone people don’t like to debate with due to the fact I block out what others have to say if I don’t understand or agree and shouting at a person to get my point across, I learn that yelling doesn’t get you heard it your facts.
Therefore, with all that said I believe I can use this characteristic as a strong strength since I want to be a motivational speaker in the future and start a youth group so yeah like I said I believe I have the voice but need to use it properly. So I will use the skills above that I’m learning in DMH (Detroit Minds and Hearts) to strengthen it, will keep making Dua that Allah helps me do so, will write out my thoughts so I won’t have to talk it out so much if it’s not necessary, and will be patient.
Any advice on how I can strengthen that skill? Please?